Archive for the ‘Sub-conscious Mind’ Category


“Dan apa saja musibah yang menimpa kamu maka adalah disebabkan oleh perbuatan tanganmu sendiri, dan Allah memaafkan sebahagian besar (dari kesalahan-kesalahanmu). Dan kamu tidak dapat melepaskan diri (dari azab Allah) di muka bumi, dan kamu tidak memperoleh seorang pelindungpun dan tidak pula seorang penolong selain Allah.

(QS. 42. Asy Syuura : 30-31)

“Tiada suatu bencanapun yang menimpa di bumi dan (tidak pula) pada dirimu sendiri melainkan telah tertulis di dalam kitab (Lauhul Mahfudz) sebelum kami menciptakannya. Sesungguhnya yang demikian itu adalah mudah bagi Allah. (Kami jelaskan yang demikian itu) supaya kamu jangan berduka cita terhadap  apa yang luput dari kamu, dan supaya kamu jangan terlalu bergembira terhadapa apa yang di berikan-Nya kepadamu. Dan Allah tidak menyukai setiap orang yang sombong lagi membanggakan diri.

(QS. 57. Al Hadiid : 22-23)

Dan Allah menciptakan kamu dari tanah kemudian dari air mani, kemudian Dia menjadikan kamu berpasangan (laki-laki dan perempuan). Dan tidak ada seorang perempuanpun mengandung dan tidak (pula) melahirkan melainkan dengan sepengetahuan-Nya. Dan sekali-kali tidak di panjangkan umur seorang yang berumur panjang dan tidak pula dikurangi umurnya, melainkan (sudah ditetapkan) dalam Kitab (Lauh Mahfuzh). Sesungguhnya yang demikian itu bagi Allah adalah mudah.

“Apakah manusia itu menduga bahawa mereka di biarkan saja mengatakan : “Kami telah beriman”, sedangkan mereka tidak diuji lagi? Dan sesungguhnya Kami telah menguji orang-orang yang sebelum mereka, maka sesungguhnya Dia mengetahui orang-orang yang dusta.”

(QS.29. Al Ankabuut : 2 -3)

“Bagi orang-orang yang memenuhi seruan Tuhannya, (disediakan) pembalasan yang baik. Dan orang-orang yang tidak memenuhi seruan Tuhan, sekiranya mereka mempunyai semua (kekayaan) yang ada di bumi itu lagi besertanya, nescaya mereka akan menebus dirinya dengan kekayaan itu. Orang-orang itu di sediakan baginya hisab yang buruk dan tempat kediaman mereka ialah Jahannam dan itulah seburuk-buruk tempat kediaman.

(QS. 13. Ar-Ra’ad: 18)

Dan Dialah Allah (Yang disembah), baik dilangit mahupun di bumi; Dia mengetahui apa yang kamu rahsiakan dan apa yang kamu lahirkan serta mengetahui apa yang kamu usahakan.”

(QS. 6. Al An’aam)


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I am a rich child of the infinite universe. Abundant supply now manifests in my life and I now meet my financial obligations easily and effortlessly.

____________(state amount) now comes quickly to me.

My body is strong and healthy. Every day, new life, strength, and vitality are flowing to every atom, cell, and organ of my body. Every day in every way I am getting better and better and better.

I love my body and give thanks for its perfect functioning. Every cell and atom of my body now radiate vibrant health and vitality.

I give thanks for ever-increasing health, strength, and vitality. I am enjoying radiant good health now.

Expand this power for Good by affirming good for other people too. Always say things like :

You will be fine.

Everything is okay.

You are just fine the way you are.

Of course you can do it.

I know you can do it.

I have complete faith in you.

I predict complete success for you in this venture.

I admire your talents and ability.

You are strong and healthy.

You look so much better today.

Thank you for the inspiration you’ve given me.

I really appreciate your help.

Statements Releasing troublesome people from your life:

I completely release you,_______________.

I release you and let you go to your Highest Good.

I completely and absolutely release you,____________,

I bless you with love and release you.

I completely and wholeheartedly release you,_____________, to your Highest Good.

Statements to affirm for troublesome people that holding on to us.:

_________, you completely and absolutely release me. You relax and let me go.

_________, you completely and wholeheartedly let me go. All things are in harmony between us, now and forever.

If a situation or event is bothering you, you can say:

I completely and wholeheartedly release_________(situation, condition, relationship, experience, or event). I relax and release it.

I now let go of any conditions or relationships in my life which are no longer for my Highest Good. I now completely let them go—–for the Highest Good of all.

Releasing People You Love:

____________ I completely and wholeheartedly let you go to your Highest Good. I love you but I let you go. You are completely free and I am completely free. Perfect harmony is the one and only reality between us.

Releasing Problems or Situations:

I now completely and wholeheartedly release_________(name the problem or situation). I allow it to work itself out for the Highest Good of all concerned.

All sickness is
Basically congestion.

All healing is
Basically circulation.

General Statements of Release:

I let go of all fear.

I let go of all anxiety .

I let go of all pain.

I let go of all doubt.

I let go of all sorrow.

I let go of all tension.

I let go of all sadness.

I let go of all resistance to change.

I let go of all anger.

I let go of all guilt.

I let go of all criticism.

I let go of all unforgiveness.

I let go of all hurt.

I let go of all blame.

I let go of all resentment.

I let go of all negative patterns.

I let go of all negative thoughts.

I let go of all struggle.

I let go of old patterns.

I let go of all limitations.

I let go of my negative beliefs.

I let go of the pattern in my consciousness that created this negative condition .

I let go of _____ (name the thing, for example, this apartment, this job, this relationship, etc).

I bless______(name the thing or situation) with love and let it go.

I let go of the past.

I let go of the future.

I let go of my fears about_________.


Belief creates biology – Norman Counsins



Persistent thoughts about sickness create sickness.



Persistent thoughts about health create health.

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Visualization Exercise

For the best results, try to do this exercise everyday

Step One : Relax

Relax, The goal is to release mental and muscular tension, relax in mind and body, let go and slow down your brain waves so you enter alpha state and open your subconscious mind to new, positive pictures and ideas.

Step Two : Visualize

Picture whatever you desire. Do your picturing in the present tense because subconscious mind knows no past or future. See it, visualize, imagine the situation you desire now, in as many details as possible. Feel the pleasure, feel the emotions your new Good will produce within you. Pictured your new Good for a few minutes.

Step Three: Affirmation

Open your eyes slowly and become aware of the room around you. You can reinforce the exercise by affirming aloud:

“I am now fully awake and happier and healthier than ever before.”

The Wheel of Fortune Technique

The General Board :

1. Make one general, overall board or wheel that covers all the different areas of your life.

2. Dividing up the poster board or cardboard into four or five different areas, for example :

1) health

2) prosperity

3) family

4) friends

5) the spiritual quest.

3. Look through books and magazines and find bright, happy pictures that illustrate the state of health, business success, family unity, etc, you wish to manifest in your life. Paste the different pictures in the area they belong to.

4. In the middle of your board, write a positive affirmation or blessing dedicating your board to the Highest Good for your self and all humanity.

The Specific Board :

1. Make specific boards or wheels of fortune for the different areas of your life. For example, you can make an entire board about prosperity, or about love, or about health.

2. Follow the same principle as described above. Find bright, happy pictures that illustrate the positive outcome you are going to manifest.

Important Points :

1. Keep it secret.

Don’t show it to other people and don’t talk about it.

2. Look at it every day

Look at your wheel every single day for a few minutes when you are alone.

3. Be careful

The power of visualization is immense, so choose your pictures with care. Do not use pictures that are limiting, dark, or negative. Choose bright, bold, happy, colorful pictures for yourself. And don’t clutter up your board with too many images either because it can be confusing.

4. Don’t Compromise

This is not an intellectual exercise, so you don’t have to be logical about the Good you picture. Picture what you really want, not what other people want for you or what you think you should, could, or can have. Listen to the wisdom of your heart and picture what you really deeply and sincerely want to manifest in your life.

5. Colors:

Use background paper of different colors for different subject:

a. Green or gold for prosperity

b. White or yellow for spiritual growth and understanding.

c. Orange or bright yellow for health and energy.

d. Blue for intellectual achievement

e. Rose or pink for love and harmony.

6. Bless your board:

Dedicate your board to the Highest Good by placing a spiritual symbol or blessing on your board.


What is alpha? Alpha is what we call the state we’re in when our brain waves slow down to about half their normal frequency. This happens naturally just before we fall asleep and as we wake up in the morning.



Is the warrior’s prayer

Unto himself.


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Napoleon Hill Six Ways To Turns Desires Into Gold

First : fix in your mind the exact amount of money you desire. It is not sufficient merely to say “I want plenty of money.” Be definite as to the amount.

Second : determine exactly what you intend to give in return for the money you desire. (There is no such reality as “something for nothing.”)

Third : establish a definite date when you intend to possess the money you desire.

Fourth : create a definite plan for carrying out your desire, and begin at once, whether you are ready or not, to put this plan into action.

Fifth : write out a clear, concise statement of the amount of money you intend to acquire, name the time limit for its acquisition, state what you intend to give in return for the money, and describe clearly the plan through which you intend to accumulate it.

Sixth : read your written statement aloud, twice daily, once just before retiring at night, and once after arising in the morning. As you read —see and feel and believe yourself already in possession of the money.

Everyday, sit down and decide each year exactly how much money you want to make. Then, decide exactly what you would give in exchange for that amount of money. Then, make a written statement as described above, mounted it on a piece of cardboard, and placed it by your bed. Read your statement aloud first thing every morning and last thing every evening before you go to sleep. Closed your eyes, relaxed, and visualized my desired results in as much detail as possible. See yourself doing the work you plan to do and receiving the fair payment you described for yourself. Imagine having the money in your hands and putting it into your bank account.

Every year, rewrite your statement, raised your goal, reevaluated what you would give in exchange for the money, and continued.

Whatever the mind of man

Can conceive and believe

It can achieve.


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If you are a smoker and would like to quit, try reading this words to your subconscious mind three or four times a day for the next three weeks and watch what happens:


I do not smoke. My lungs are strong and healthy. I am able to breathe deeply and fully.

Taking care of myself physically is important to me. I like keeping myself fit and feeling good.

I am a non smoker-and I am proud of myself.

I have more energy and stamina than ever before. I enjoy life and I’m glad to be here.

When I see a cigarette, or even think of one, I automatically hear the words, “I do not smoke” — and I don’t!

I have no habits which control or influence me in any harmful way. I am in control of myself and everything I do. I always do what is best for me, myself, and my future.

I really enjoy breathing clean, fresh air, being healthy, and being in complete control of my body and my mind.

I am able to achieve any goal which I set for myself. I see, in my mind, a clear picture of myself having already accomplished my goal. I create it, I see it often, and I achieve it.

I exercise regularly. I keep myself fit and healthy. And I am enjoying a lifetime of energy and vitality.

All of my senses are clear and alive. My sight, my sense of smell, my hearing, my tasting, and even my touch are more alive than ever before.

I do not see smoking as being strong, intelligent, or glamorous in any way. I see it for what it really is, and it has no place in my life.

I give myself permission to relax, feel good, breathe deeply and fully, and enjoy being a healthy non-smoker at all times and in all circum-stances.

People enjoy being around me. I have self-confidence and self-respect. I like myself, and it shows!

Being a non smoker is easy for me. After all, I was born that way – and it is the natural thing for me to do.

(Excerpt from the book “What To Say When You Talk To Yourself” by Shad Helmstetter)


Diterjemahkan ke BM:

Sekiranya anda seorang perokok dan ingin berhenti, cuba baca frasa di bawah kepada fikiran separa sedar anda (Waktu alpha iaitu 15 minit akhir sebelum tidur dan 15 minit awal selepas tidur) sebanyak tiga-empat kali sehari selama tiga minggu dan perhatikan apakah yang akan berlaku.


  • Saya tidak merokok. Paru-paru saya kuat dan sihat. Saya boleh bernafas sedalam-dalamnya dan sepuas-puasnya.
  • Menjaga diri saya secara fizikal adalah penting buat saya. Saya suka menjaga kesihatan saya dan berasa sihat.
  • Saya bukan perokok – dan saya bangga dengan diri saya sendiri.
  • Saya mempunyai lebih tenaga dan stamina daripada sebelum ini. Saya menikmati kehidupan dan saya bersyukur kerana masih hidup.
  • Apabila saya terlihat sebatang rokok atau terfikir tentangnya, secara automatik saya terdengar perkataan, “Saya tidak merokok” – dan saya tidak merokok!
  • Saya tidak mempunyai tabiat yang mengawal atau mempengaruhi saya secara yang membahayakan. Saya menguasai diri saya sendiri dan segala yang saya lakukan. Saya selalu melakukan yang terbaik untuk saya, diri saya dan masa depan saya.
  • Saya benar-benar suka menghirup udara yang bersih dan segar, berkeadaan sihat dan menguasai sepenuhnya tubuh dan minda saya.
  • Saya boleh mencapai apa sahaja matlamat yang saya tetapkan untuk diri saya. Saya melihat dalam minda saya, gambaran jelas diri saya yang telah berjaya mencapai matlamat saya. Saya yang menciptanya, saya selalu melihatnya dan saya mencapainya.
  • Saya selalu bersenam. Saya menjaga diri saya agar kuat dan sihat. Dan saya menikmati tenaga dan stamina sepanjang hayat.
  • Semua pancaindera saya jelas dan hidup. Pandangan saya, deria bau saya, pendengaran saya, deria rasa saya malah sentuhan saya adalah lebih hidup daripada sebelumnya.
  • Saya tidak melihat merokok sebagai menjadi seseorang yang kuat, bijak atau glamour dalam apa-apa cara jua. Saya melihatnya seperti yang sebenarnya dan ia tidak mempunyai tempat dalam kehidupan saya.
  • Saya membenarkan diri saya untuk berehat, berasa senang, bernafas sedalam-dalamnya dan sepuas-puasnya dan suka menjadi bukan perokok yang sihat sepanjang masa dan dalam apa jua keadaan.
  • Orang ramai senang bergaul dengan saya. Saya mempunyai keyakinan diri dan hormat diri. Saya suka akan diri saya dan ia ketara!
  • Menjadi bukan perokok mudah bagi saya. Lagi pun saya di lahirkan begitu dan ia adalah satu perkara yang semulajadi untuk dilakukan.

( Di petik dari Buku : “What To Say When You Talk To Yourself” oleh Shad Helmstetter)

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Born To Win


You cannot teach a man anything.

You can only help him discover it within himself.


Each human being is born as something new, something that never existed before. Each is born with the capacity to win at life. Each person has a unique way of seeing, hearing, touching, tasting, and thinking. Each has his or her own unique potentials – capabilities and limitations. Each can be a significant, thinking, aware and creative being – a productive person, a winner.

The words “winner” and “loser” have many meanings. When we refer to a person as a winner, we do not mean one who makes someone else lose. To us, a winner is one who responds authentically by being credible, trustworthy, responsive, and genuine, both as an individual and as a member of a society. A loser is one who fails to respond authentically.

Few people are one hundred percent winners or one hundred percent losers. It’s a matter of degree. However, once a person is on the road to being a winner, his or her chances are greater for becoming even more so. This book is intended to facilitate the journey.


Winners have different potentials. Achievement is not the most important thing. Authenticity is. The authentic person experiences self-reality by knowing, being, and becoming a credible, responsive person. Authentic people actualize their own unprecedented uniqueness and appreciate the uniqueness of others.

Authentic persons-winners-do not dedicate their lives to a concept of what they imagine they should be; rather, they are themselves and as such do not use their energy putting on a performance, maintaining pretence, and manipulating others. Winners can reveal themselves instead of projecting images that please, provoke, or entice others. They are aware that there is a difference between being loving and acting loving, between being stupid and acting stupid, between being knowledgeable and acting knowledgeable. Winners do not need to hide behind a mask. They throw off unrealistic self-images of inferiority or superiority. Autonomy does not frighten winners.

All people have moments of autonomy, if only fleeting. However, winners are able to sustain their autonomy over ever-increasing periods of time. Winners may lose ground occasionally and may even fail. Yet, in spite of setbacks winners maintain a basic self-confidence.

Winners are not afraid to do their own thinking and to use their own knowledge. They can separate facts from opinion and don’t pretend to have all answers. They listen to others, evaluate what they say, but come to their own conclusions. Although winners can admire and respect other people, they are not totally defined, demolished, bound, or awed by them.

Winners do not play “helpless,” nor do they play the blaming game. Instead, they assume responsibility for their own lives. They do not give others a false authority over them. Winners are their own bosses and know it.

A winner’s timing is right. Winners respond appropriately to the situation. Their responses are related to the message sent and preserve the significance, worth, well being, and dignity of the people involved. Winners know that for everything there is a season and for every activity a time.

A time to be aggressive and a time to be passive,

A time to be together and a time to be alone,

A time to fight and a time to love,

A time to work and a time to play,

A time to cry and a time to laugh,

A time to confront and a time to withdraw

A time to speak and a time to be silent,

A time to hurry and a time to wait.

To winners, time is precious. Winners don’t kill it, but live it here and now. Living in the now does not mean that winners foolishly ignore their own past history or fail to prepare for the future. Rather, winners know their past, are aware and alive in the present, and look forward to the future.

Winners learn to know their feelings and limitations and to be unafraid of them. Winners are not stopped by their own contradictions and ambivalences. Being authentic, they know when they are angry and can listen when others are angry with them. Winners can give and receive affection. Winners are able to love and be loved.

Winners can be spontaneous. They do not have to respond in predetermined, rigid ways, but can change their plans when the situation calls for it. Winners have a zest for live, enjoying work, play, food, other people, sex, and the world of nature. Without guilt they enjoy their own accomplishments. Without envy they enjoy the accomplishments of others.

Although winners can freely enjoy themselves, they can also postpone enjoyment, can discipline themselves in the present to enhance their enjoyment in the future. Winners do not get their security by controlling others. They do not set themselves up to lose.

A winner cares about the world and its peoples. A winner is not isolated from the general problems of society, but is concerned, compassionate, and committed to improving the quality of life. Even in the face of national and international adversity, a winner’s self-image is not one of a powerless individual. A winner works to make the world a better place.


Although people are born to win, they are also born helpless and totally dependent on their environment. Winners successfully make the transition from total helplessness to independence, and then to interdependence. Losers do not. Somewhere along the line they begin to avoid becoming responsible for their own lives.

As we have noted, few people are total winners or losers. Most of them are winners in some areas of their lives and losers in others. Their winning or losing is influenced by what happens to them in childhood.

A lack of response to dependency needs, poor nutrition, brutality, unhappy relationships, disease, continuing disappointments, inadequate physical care, and traumatic events are among the many experiences that contribute to making people losers. Such experiences interrupt, deter, or prevent the normal progress toward autonomy and self-actualization. To cope with negative experiences, children learn to manipulate themselves and others. These manipulative techniques are hard to give up later in life and often become set patterns. Winners work to shed them. Losers hang on to them.

Some losers speak of themselves as successful but anxious, successful but trapped, or successful but unhappy. Others speak of dead, or bored to death. Losers may not recognize that, for the most part, they have been building their own cages, digging their own graves, and boring themselves.

A losers seldom lives in the present, but instead destroys the presents by focusing on past memories or future expectations. The loser who lives in the past dwells on the good old days or on past personal misfortunes. Nostalgically, the loser either clings to the way things “used to be” or bemoans his or her bad luck. The loser is self-pitying and shifts the responsibility for an unsatisfactory life onto others. Blaming others and excusing oneself are often part of the loser’s games. A loser who lives in the past may lament if only:

“If only I had married someone else…”

“If only I had a different job…”

“If only I had finished school…”

“If only I had been handsome (beautiful)…”

“If only my spouse had stopped drinking…”

“If only I had been born rich…”

“If only I had had better parents…”

People who live in the future may dream of some miracle after which they can “live happily ever after.” Rather than pursuing their own lives, losers wait-wait for the magical rescue. How wonderful life will be when:

“When Prince Charming or the ideal woman finally comes…”

“When school is over…”

“When the kids grow up…”

“When that new jop opens…”

“When the boss dies…”

“When my ship comes in…”

In contrast to those who live with the delusion of a magical rescue, some losers live constantly under the dread of future catastrophe. They conjure up expectations of what if:

“What if I lose my job…”

“What if I lose my mind…”

“What if something falls on me…”

“What If I break my leg…”

“What if they don’t like me…”

“What if I make a mistake…”

By continually focusing on the future, these losers experience anxiety in the present. They are anxious over what they anticipate-either real or imagined-tests, bill paying, a love affair, crisis, illness, retirement, the weather, and so forth. Persons overly involved with imaginings let the actual possibilities of the moment pass them by. They occupy their minds with material that is irrelevant to the current situation. Anxiety tunes out current reality. Consequently, these people are unable to see for themselves, hear for themselves, feel for themselves, or taste, touch, or think for themselves.

Unable to bring the full potential of their senses into the immediate situation, losers’ perceptions are incorrect or incomplete. They see themselves and others through a prismlike distortion. Their ability to deal effectively with the real world is hampered.

Losers spend much of their time play-acting, pretending, manipulating, and perpetuating old roles from childhood. Losers invest their energy in maintaining masks, often projecting a phony front. Karen Horney writes, “The fostering of the phony self is always at the expense of the real self, the latter being treated with disdain, at best like a poor relative”[2]. To the play-acting loser, performance is more important than reality.

Losers repress their capacities to express spontaneously and appropriately the full range of possibility behavior. They may be unaware of other options for a more productive, self-fulfilling life path. Losers are afraid to try new things and instead maintain their own status quo. Losers are repeaters, repeating not only their own mistakes, but often those of their families and culture as well.

A loser has difficulty giving and receiving affection and does not enter into intimate, honest, direct relationships with others. Instead, a loser tries to manipulate them into living up to his or her expectations. Losers’ energies are often channeled into living up to the expectations of others [3].

People who are losers are not using their intellect appropriately, but instead are misusing it to rationalize and intellectualize. When rationalizing, losers give excuses to make their actions seem plausible. When intellectualizing, they try to snow others with verbiage. Consequently, much of their potential remains dormant, unrealized, and unrecognized. Like the frog prince in the fairy tale, losers are spellbound and live their lives being something they aren’t meant to be.

(excerpt from the book “Born To Win” by Muriel James and Dorothy Jongeward)


Anda tidak boleh mengajar seseorang apa-apa sahaja.

Anda cuma boleh membantunya untuk menemui pengajaran di dalam dirinya sendiri.


Setiap manusia di lahirkan sebagai sesuatu yang baru, sesuatu yang tidak pernah wujud sebelum ini. Setiap manusia di lahirkan dengan kemampuan untuk menang di dalam kehidupan. Setiap orang mempunyai satu keunikan tersendiri untuk melihat, mendengar, menyentuh, merasa dan berfikir. Setiap orang memiliki potensi unik tersendiri – keupayaaan dan had tertentu. Setiap orang boleh menjadi manusia yang penting, berfikir, sedar dan kreatif – seorang yang produktif, seorang pemenang.

Perkataan “Orang Yang Menang” dan “Orang Yang Kalah” mempunyai banyak makna dan pengertian. Apabila kita merujuk kepada seseorang sebagai orang yang menang, kita tidak bermaksud seseorang yang membuat seseorang yang lain kalah. Pada kami, seorang pemenang adalah seseorang yang menyahut dengan sejati dengan menjadi orang yang boleh di percayai, bertanggungjawap, dan benar, baik sebagai individu atau sebagai salah seorang ahli di dalam masyarakat. Orang yang Kalah adalah orang yang gagal untuk menyahut dengan sejati.

Hanya sedikit sahaja orang adalah satu peratus Orang Yang Menang atau seratus peratus Orang Yang Kalah. Ianya adalah berkaitan dengan kadar. Walaubagaimanapun, sekali seseorang itu berada di atas jalan untuk menjadi seorang Pemenang, peluangnya adalah cukup baik untuk menjadi lebih berjaya lagi. Buku ini bertujuan untuk memudahkan perjalanan itu.


Orang yang Menang mempunyai potensi yang berbeza-beza. Pencapaian bukanlah merupakan perkara yang paling penting. Ketulenan / kejatian adalah paling penting. Seseorang yang jati menempuh pengalaman percaya-diri sendiri dengan mengetahui, mewujudkan dan menjadi seorang yang bertanggungjawap. Orang yang jati membenarkan keunikan mereka yang belum pernah berlaku dahulu dan menghargai keunikan orang lain.

Orang yang jati- pemenang-tidak berbakti kehidupan mereka pada satu konsep apa yang mereka bayangkan mereka patut menjadi; lebih tepat, mereka adalah diri mereka sendiri dan mereka tidak menggunakan tenaga mereka meletakkan pada satu lakonan/ perlaksanaan, mengekalkan kepura-puraan untuk di puji, dan bertindak dengan licik / memanipulasi orang lain. Pemenang boleh mendedahkan diri mereka, di sebalik dari imej gambaran yang mengembirakan hati, menghasut, atau mengoda orang lain. Mereka sedar bahawa terdapat satu perbezaan di antara menyayangi dan berlakun menyayangi, diantara menjadi bodoh dan berlakun bodoh, di antara berpengetahuan dan berlakon berpengetahuan. Pemenang tidak perlu berselindung di sebalik sebuah topeng. Mereka membuang imej-diri yang tidak benar seperti sifat kerendahan diri dari kedudukan atau sifat meninggikan diri dari kedudukan. Pemerintahan sendiri/ merdeka tidak menakutkan para Pemenang.

Semua orang mempunyai saat pemerintahan diri sendiri, walaupun hanya sepintas lalu. Walaubagaimanapun, pemenang berupaya untuk mempertahankan pemerintahan sendiri mereka melebihi tambahan jangka waktu. Kadang-kadang Pemenang mungkin akan kehilangan tapak dan kemungkinan juga gagal. Namun, tidak di halangi perlengahan, pemenang mengekalkan satu sikap yakin-diri yang asas.

Pemenang tidak takut untuk melakukan pemikiran mereka sendiri dan menggunakan pengetahuan mereka. Mereka boleh memisahkan fakta dari pendapat dan tidak berlakun mempunyai semua jawapan. Mereka mendengar kata-kata orang lain, menganalisa kan apa yang mereka kata, tetapi menghasilkan kesimpulan mereka sendiri. Walaupun Pemenang boleh memuja dan menghormati orang lain, mereka tidaklah di takrifkan, di musnahkan, di batasi, di geruni secara menyeluruh oleh mereka. Pemenang tidak bermain “tidak bermaya,” tidak juga mereka bermain permainan salah-menyalahkan. Sebaliknya, mereka menganggap tanggungjawap untuk kehidupan mereka sendiri. Mereka tidak memberi orang lain satu kuasa palsu ke atas diri mereka. Pemenang adalah ketua diri mereka sendiri dan mengetahuinya.

Jangkaan waktu seorang pemenang adalah betul. Pemenang bertindak sesuai pada keadaan. Tindakbalas mereka berkait kepada pesanan yang di hantar dan memelihara kepentingan, nilai, keadaan baik, dan maruah orang yang terlibat. Pemenang mengetahui bahawa untuk setiap benda wujudnya musim dan untuk setiap aktiviti adanya masa.

Masa untuk menjadi aggresif dan masa untuk menjadi pasif,

Masa untuk bersama dan masa untuk berseorangan,

Masa untuk bergaduh dan masa untuk di sayangi,

Masa untuk kerja dan masa untuk main,

Masa untuk menangis dan masa untuk ketawa,

Masa untuk berdepan dan masa untuk mengalah,

Masa untuk bercakap dan masa untuk diam,

Masa untuk tergesa dan masa untuk menunggu.

Kepada Pemenang, masa adalah sangat berharga. Pemenang tidak membunuhnya, tetapi menghidupkannya di sini dan pada waktu sekarang. Hidup pada waktu sekarang tidaklah bermakna pemenang dengan bodohnya tidak mempedulikan sejarah lepas mereka atau gagal untuk bersedia untuk masa hadapan. Lebih tepat, Pemenang tahu masa lepas mereka, mereka sedar dan hidup pada waktu sekarang, dan melihat ke hadapan kepada masa hadapan.

Pemenang belajar mengetahui perasaan mereka dan had tertentu dan menjadi tidak takut pada kedua-duanya. Pemenang tidak di hentikan oleh rasa percanggahan dan rasa berbelah-bagi mereka sendiri. Menjadi sejati, mereka tahu bila waktu mereka marah dan boleh mendengar bila orang lain marah dengan diri mereka. Pemenang boleh memberi dan menerima jangkitan. Pemenang mampu menyayangi dan di sayangi.

Pemenang boleh menjadi seorang yang spontan (berlaku dengan sendiri). Mereka tidak perlu bertindakbalas di dalam keadaan belum di tentukan, cara yang tegas, tetapi boleh mengubah rancangan bila situasi memerlukannya. Pemenang mempunyai satu semangat untuk hidup, seronok bekerja, bermain, makan, orang lain, seks, dan dunia yang semulajadi. Tanpa rasa bersalah, mereka menikmati pencapaian mereka sendiri. Tanpa rasa irihati, mereka menikmati kejayaan orang lain.

Walaupun pemenang boleh dengan bebasnya berseronok dengan diri mereka, mereka juga boleh menangguhkan keseronokan mereka, boleh mendisplinkan diri mereka di dalam waktu sekarang untuk menambahkan keseronokan mereka di masa hadapan. Pemenang tidak memperolehi keselamatan mereka dengan cara mengawal orang lain. Mereka tidak memerangkap diri mereka untuk gagal.

Seorang pemenang mengambil peduli tentang dunia dan orangramai yang menghuninya. Seorang pemenang tidak di sisihkan dari masalah am masyarakat, tetapi mengambilkira, ada perasaan belas kasihan, dan bertanggungjawap untuk memperbaiki kualiti kehidupan. Walaupun di wajah kesusahan dunia dan antarabangsa, Imej diri seorang pemenang bukanlah salah satu individu yang tidak berkuasa. Tugas seorang pemenang adalah untuk menjadikan dunia ini sebuah tempat yang lebih baik.


Walaupun manusia lahir untuk menang, mereka juga di lahirkan tak berupaya dan sepenuhnya bergantung pada keadaan sekeliling mereka. Pemenang berjaya membuat pemindahan dari tidak upaya lansung kepada berdikari, dan kemudian kepada saling bergantungan antara satu sama lain. Orang yang kalah pula tidak begitu. Di satu-satu tempat di dalam perjalanan hidup, mereka mula mengelak menjadi bertanggungjawap untuk kehidupan mereka.

Seperti yang telah kita nyatakan, hanya sedikit manusia yang menjadi sepenuhnya Orang yang Menang atau yang Kalah. Kemenangan dan Kekalahan mereka di pengaruhi oleh apa yang terjadi kepada mereka semasa mereka kanak-kanak.

Kekurangan tindakbalas kepada pergantungan keperluan, pemakanan yang serba kurang, keganasan, perhubungan yang tidak bahagia, penyakit, kesedihan yang berterusan, Perjagaan fizikal yang tidak mencukupi, dan kejadian-kejadian kejutan emosi/ trauma adalah antara kebanyakan pengalaman yang menyumbang membuat orang menjadi Orang yang Kalah. Ada Pengalaman yang menganggu, mencegah, atau menghalang perkembangan normal kepada autonomi / pemerintahan sendiri dan kewujudan sebenar-diri. Untuk mengendalikan pengalaman yang negative, kanak-kanak belajar untuk bertindak secara licik / memanipulasikan diri mereka dan diri orang lain. Teknik manipulasi ini amat sukar untuk di lepaskan pada kemudian hari dan seringkalinya menjadi satu set pembentukan. Orang yang berjaya berusaha untuk menanggalkannya. Orang yang Kalah mengantungkan diri mereka padanya.

Sesetengah Orang Yang Kalah bercakap berkenaan diri mereka sebagai berjaya tetapi cemas serta bimbang, berjaya tetapi terperangkap, atau berjaya tetapi tidak bahagia. Yang lain-lain bercakap berkenaan kematian, atau jemu serta bosan hingga mati. Orang yang Kalah mungkin tidak menyedarinya, untuk kebanyakan bahagian, mereka telah membina penjara mereka sendiri, menggali kubur mereka sendiri, dan membosankan diri mereka sendiri.

Orang yang Kalah jarang hidup di waktu sekarang, tetapi sebaliknya memusnahkan waktu sekarang dengan menumpukan perhatian (memfokuskan) pada kenangan lepas atau jangkaan masa hadapan. Orang yang Kalah yang hidup pada waktu lepas berhujah dengan panjang lebar berkenaan hari lepas yang bahagia atau atas nasib buruk yang lepas yang telah menimpanya. Nostalgianya (kenangan lama), Orang yang Kalah samada berpaut kepada suatu benda “sepatutnya begitu” atau mengeluh nasib buruknya. Orang yang Kalah adalah bersifat kasihan pada diri sendiri dan mengalihkan sikap tanggungjawap untuk hidup dalam keadaan tidak puashati pada orang lain. Menyalahkan orang lain dan memaafkan diri sendiri adalah seringkali merupakan satu dari bahagian permainan Orang yang Kalah. Seorang Orang yang Kalah yang hidup pada waktu yang lepas mungkin meratap / menangis kalau lah:

“Kalaulah saya berkahwin dengan orang lain…”

“Kalaulah Saya mempunyai perkerjaan yang lain…”

“Kalau lah Saya dapat menamatkan persekolahan…”

“Kalau lah saya seorang yang kacak / cantik…”

“Kalau lah pasangan saya sudah berhenti minum arak…”

“Kalaulah saya di lahirkan kaya…”

“Kalaulah saya mempunyai ibubapa yang lebih baik…”

Orang yang hidup di waktu masa hadapan mungkin bermimpi sesuatu yang mana mereka boleh “hidup bahagia selama-lamanya.” Daripada meneruskan kehidupan mereka sendiri, Orang yang Kalah menanti-nanti penyelamat yang ajaib. Betapa indahnya kehidupan bila:

“Bila Putera yang kacak atau wanita yang ideal akhirnya muncul…”

“Bila waktu sekolah telah berakhir…”

“Bila anak-anak telah dewasa…”

“Bila Kerja baru tersebut terbuka…”

“Bila boss dah mati…”

“Bila kapal saya dah sampai…”

Berbeza dengan mereka yang hidup dengan pendayaan atau khayalan suatu penyelamat yang ajaib, sesetengah Orang yang Kalah hidup terus-menerus di bawah ketakutan bencana atau malapetaka masa hadapan. Mereka bermain silap mata/ menyihirkan jangkaan Apa kata kalau:

“Apa kata kalau saya hilang pekerjaan saya…”

“Apa kata kalau saya hilang ingatan saya…”

“Apa kata kalau sesuatu jatuh ke atas saya…”

“Apa kata kalau kaki saya patah…”

“Apa kata kalau mereka tak suka saya…”

“Apa kata kalau saya tersilap…”

Dengan menumpukan perhatian berterusan pada waktu hadapan, Orang yang Kalah mengalami rasa kebimbangan pada waktu sekarang. Mereka bimbang ke atas apa yang mereka jangkakan – samada ujian benar atau khayalan, membayar bil-bil, perhubungan sulit, krisis, sakit, persaraan, cuaca dan sebagainya. Orang yang telah terlebih terpengaruh dengan khayalan membiarkan keupayaan / kemungkinan sebenar pada waktu sekarang melepasi mereka. Mereka mengisi fikiran mereka dengan bahan-bahan yang tidak berkaitan dengan situasi sekarang. Kebimbangan yang tidak mengikuti kenyataan sekarang. Sebagai akibatnya, orang ini tidak berupaya melihat diri mereka sendiri, mendengar diri mereka sendiri, merasai diri mereka sendiri, atau menyentuh, atau berfikir untuk diri mereka sendiri.

Tidak berupaya membawa keupayaan penuh deria mereka kepada situasi yang serta-merta, tanggapan Orang yang Kalah adalah tidak betul atau tidak lengkap. Mereka melihat diri mereka dan orang lain melalui satu prisma yang herot-benyot. Keupayaan mereka untuk melayan dengan berkesan dengan dunia sebenar di sekat.

Orang yang Kalah mengisi kebanyakan masanya bermain-berlakun, berpura-pura, bertindak dengan licik, dan mengekalkan peranan lama dari zaman kanak-kanak. Orang yang Kalah melaburkan tenaga mereka di dalam mengekalkan topeng-topeng, selalunya mengambarkan sebuah muka palsu. Karen Horney menulis, “Pengalakkan diri yang palsu selalunya pada pembiayaan diri yang sebenar, yang kemudiannya di perlakukan dengan pandangan hina, dengan baiknya seperti seorang saudara yang malang”[2]. Kepada Orang yang kalah yang berlakun, pertunjukan adalah lebih penting dari kenyataan.

Orang yang Kalah menindas kemampuan mereka untuk mengungkapkan secara spontan dan sesuai had penuh kemungkinan tabiat. Mereka mungkin tidak sedar akan pilihan lain untuk satu pilihan untuk menjadi lebih produktif, jalan kehidupan memenuhi diri. Orang yang Kalah takut untuk mencuba perkara-perkara baru dan sebaliknya mengekalkan keadaan mereka sediada. Orang yang Kalah adalah pengulang, mengulang bukan sahaja kesalahan mereka sendiri, tetapi seringkali keluarga dan kebudayaan mereka juga.

Orang yang Kalah mempunyai kesukaran memberi dan menerima cinta dan tidak mempunyai sifat mesra, jujur, hubungan terus dengan orang lain. Sebaliknya, Orang yang Kalah, cuba untuk memanipulasi mereka kepada jangkaan kehidupan nya. Tenaga Orang yang Kalah seringkali di salurkan ke dalam kehidupan yang di jangkakan oleh orang lain.[3].

Orang yang Kalah tidak menggunakan kecerdikan mereka sebaik-baiknya, tetapi sebaliknya menyalahgunakan nya kepada kewajaran dan kebijaksanaan. Apabila membuat kewajaran, Orang yang Kalah memberi pelbagai alasan untuk membuatkan tindakannya kelihatan munasabah / masuk akal. Apabila membuat kebijaksanaan, mereka cuba menjadi besar dan hebat dengan kata yang menjela-jela. Akibatnya, banyak potensi mereka kekal tidak aktif, tidak di sedarkan, dan tidak di iktiraf. Seperti putera katak di dalam cerita dongeng, Orang yang Kalah adalah orang yang terpesona dan menghidupkan kehidupan mereka menjadi sesuatu yang bukan mereka maksudkan.

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The Power of Now

By Karim Hajee


You ever catch yourself daydreaming or thinking about something that happened some time ago – or even something that may or may not happen in the future?

Chances are you’re like most people and you regularly think about something that happened in the past or you’re focused on something that could happen in the future.

When you you’re thinking about the past or the future – you’re not here – you’re not living in the now.

When you’re not living in the now you fail to utilize what I call the power of now – something that can dramatically improve your life in ways you never thought possible.

If you want to achieve success, happiness and live the life you want – start living in the now – be here now – by experiencing the present moment for the gift that it is.

The Past is Over, The Future Does Not Exist

We all live in the present moment but very few of us utilize the power of this very present moment.

Let’s face it the only thing that exists is what is happening right now. The past does not exist – it’s over with and should be nothing but a fading memory. The future does not exist – it simply hasn’t happened yet.

Both the past and the future are only a part of your thoughts and memories – they only exist in your mind and not in reality.

The only thing that really exists right now is the very present moment that you live in and from this present moment you can draw tremendous power – the kind of power that can change your life and allow you to achieve your goals.

Now you may not like the present moment – but that’s only because you’re thinking about what you feel the present should be. You’re comparing the present moment to something else and not appreciating what is happening right now.

Chances are you’re either allowing your ego to dominate your present moment, or you’re focusing on mistakes of the past, or your consumed with the future that you’re forgetting to live in the present moment.

I know some of you may say: “Karim, right now I don’t have a job and the bank is about to foreclose. Plus my wife/husband just left me and I’m stuck with 3 kids. My present is not exactly pleasant.” If you’re present or current situation is not pleasant then you are comparing it to something else – you’re probably thinking about what the now should be instead of dealing with what is going on.

If you don’t have a job then it’s time to look for one. I know you’re probably looking for work but don’t focus on the fact that you don’t have a job, don’t focus on how difficult it may seem to get a job, simply concentrate on going out and getting a job. This is the process of doing what has to be done now and not worrying about the way things should be.

At the end of the day – see where you are and focus on what needs to be done next.

If your children need attention right now – then give them attention. If you need to go out and look for work right now then do it. Don’t compare your present situation to anything – accept what it is and make the most of it with the intention of making the present better with each step that you take.

Don’t get me wrong – I’m not saying accept your present situation and don’t do anything to improve it. I’m saying deal with your present situation and do everything you can to improve your life.

When you begin working on the present moment with the intent of improving your life you begin to utilize the power of now – you leave the past in the past, you don’t concentrate on the future and instead you start living in the present moment doing everything that you can to improve your life now.

When you do this you send a powerful message to your subconscious mind. You tell your subconscious that you are here now and ready to get to work to improve your life. It then begins working for you because your subconscious only understands the present moment – your subconscious does not understand the future or the past – your subconscious only lives in the now – in the present moment.

Now I know this concept is easy to understand but the challenge is in applying it. While many of you will be able to grasp and understand the concept of living in the now and working with the power of the present moment – practicing it is quite another thing.

To start working with the power of now you have to get your mind to work differently – you have to get your mind to simply focus on what is happening and what needs to be done right now. No more comparing or hoping for things to get better. Just deal with what is and what has to be done.

When you do this you start moving forward and you allow your subconscious mind to help you achieve your goal because you are here now – working with your subconscious to create the situations that you want.

The Present is All That Exists

You may have memories, you may have feelings when you think about the past, you may worry about the future – but let’s face it the past no longer exists. You can’t step back in time and go into the past. The past is done with. It doesn’t exist.

You can’t step into the future and see what happens – despite what so called psychics and astrologers say – there is now way of seeing the future or living in the future. It hasn’t happened – one day that future will arrive and if you’re not paying attention – if you’re too focused on the past or still worrying about the future – you’ll miss it completely.

The only thing that is taking place right now is the present moment. As you read this article – that’s all that you are doing. When you are done the moment that you are currently experiencing will never happen again! The now will never happen again! Your present moment will never happen again!

Even when you think about the past – you think about it in the present moment. You don’t physically go back in time and remember the past. You only remember the past in this present moment.

When you think about the future you do it in the present moment – not in the future.

When you think about the past and the future you are wasting the valuable time and power that you have in the present moment.

The only reason people are unhappy is because they fail to live in the present moment, they fail to embrace the now. Instead, they often think about what their present moment should be and allow their ego to dominate them – thus the unhappiness sets in.

It is impossible to have a problem and live in the present moment at the same time. When you live in the present moment your attention is completely focused on what is happening at that very moment. There are no thoughts of the future or the past. If you are at work – focus on work. If you are at home – focus on the home. If you are with friends – focus on your friends.

When you do this your subconscious mind is released and free to start working on improving your life.

When you are focused on the past or worried about the future – the subconscious is lost in confusion. It doesn’t know what you want and is forced to go from present to past and present to future without being given the time or ability to create the situations you need to improve your life in the present moment.You never allow your subconscious to function in the present moment – which is the only place that it can work.

Focus on the present moment. Allow your subconscious mind to work for you everyday – by working with the power of the present moment.

Many of you may be seeking answers, trying to make decisions or just hoping to discover a passion that you can follow. All of these answers come when you live in the now – when you are focused on the present moment you will receive your answers. You can’t step back into the past or step into the future to receive these answers, they only come in the present moment.

But if you’re focused on the past or consumed with the future then when the answer arrives you’ll miss it. Why? Because you were not living in the present moment – this is where you can receive the answer.

If you want to start directing your subconscious mind and if you want to stop living in the past and start living in the now then you need to take control of your mind and subconscious mind and begin creating the life you want.

How To Live In The Now

If you’re ready to start living in the now and begin creating the life that you want then take a look at your present situation and ask yourself what’s wrong with the very moment you are in.

Don’t think about what happened yesterday or sometime in the past. Don’t focus on what might or might not happen tomorrow. Take a look at the very moment you are in not 5 minutes from now – and see if there is anything wrong. If you are at home – is there something wrong?

Don’t say you are out of work – that’s not the present moment because you are looking at what is not happening.

I want you to focus your mind on what is happening – then see what is wrong with that picture.

You should find nothing wrong with the present moment – it is what it is – and once you accept it – you can start living again.

Let’s face it you can’t turn your mind off – but you can get it to work differently and that’s what you should start doing.

Because if you don’t take control of your mind your mind will control you – and that’s not going to help you improve your life.

Ask yourself these next questions: Do you find yourself waiting for something to happen? Are you waiting to get some more time? Make more money? Meet the right person? Are you waiting for the right opportunity?

Waiting is another game the mind plays because it doesn’t want to live in the present moment.

If you answered yes to any of the above questions then you’re not living in the present moment – you are focusing on anything but the present moment. I know you can’t focus on the present moment or live in the now 24 hours a day. But start by doing this for a few minutes a day and then continue expanding the exercise everyday. Then track your progress. See how you feel when you only focus on what is happening right now. As you continually do this you’ll see yourself starting to enjoy the process.

Here’s a suggestion. The next time you are driving or walking pay attention only to what is happening around you. Listen to the sounds, observe the people. Don’t think about what you have to do or what happened yesterday or what might happen tomorrow or what might happen in five minutes. Focus your attention only on what is happening right now. Doing this will get your mind to start living in the present moment and before you know it you’ll be able to focus your mind and utilize the power of now.

Start utilizing the power of now – you’ll be more focused and you’ll enjoy the present moment. Best of all you’ll start moving toward achieving your goals and living the life you want.

Have Some Fun!

Remember to have some fun. Enjoy life. Do things differently. Act like a kid when you can – kids are always living in the now – that’s all they know. Forget about your troubles and just do something completely different – and have some fun. Once you start doing this you’ll see things begin to fall into place. If you have a passion for sports then start playing a sport you like. If you have a passion for cooking – make a meal or two over the next couple of days. Do what you enjoy and you’ll start attracting more positive situations into you life.

Karim Hajee

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